LIFESTYLE: Stop Caring What People Think.

There’s nothing worse than a guy who can’t make a decision. or a lady who can’t be who they are because they’re worried about how they’re perceived.

Women love men who pave their own way, take charge and have confidence. Vice versa.

Not many people can genuinely say they don’t care about what other people think of them. How many times do you catch yourself thinking?

·        Does she think I’m attractive?

·        Did I piss off my co-worker?

·        What will my brother/family/friends think if I do XYZ?

As you’ll learn today, as humans we’re conditioned to think this way. But there are ways that you can get around constantly worrying about this.

Today I’m going to give you three strategies you can use to finally stop obsessing about what others think of you so you can be who you truly are.

#1: Realize that Most People Don’t Care About You

You’re walking down the street and trip over the curb. What’s your first reaction? To downplay the trip right? You sort of wobble, but catch your balance and begin walking like nothing ever happened. And every other passerby will continue moving coz they don’t really care if you tripped over a curb or not.

How to Realize Others Don’t Care

When you realize that other people don’t really care all that much about you, it will help lessen the importance that you put on other people’s opinions.

The reality is that people have their own problems to deal with; they’re worried about their jobs, families, finances and the Economy. Most people don’t have the bandwidth to care about other people. The sooner you realize that not every single person in the world is analyzing every move you make, the more content you will feel.

#2 Stop comparing yourself

How often do you find yourself scrolling Instagram, Facebook and Snap-chat admiring photos of friends in exotic vacation spots or driving fancy cars? It can be addictive, but it can also be demoralizing. It can make you feel like you’re not “good enough” or that you haven’t “made it.”

If you want to stop caring what others think of you, it’s important for you to stop comparing yourself with others, you dont have to measure up ones success by what they post on social media.

How to Stop Comparing

o  Firstly, comparing yourself to others who have “more” than you is a losing strategy. You’ll only feel envious, depressed and upset. One thing you can do is limit time on social media,

o   Another positive action you can take, is to exercise gratitude. This may sound cheesy to you, but people who are grateful lead happier and longer lives than those who don’t.

Simply being grateful for the things you do have will allow you to feel more grateful and looking at the brighter side of life.

I like to start every morning by listing out at least three things that I’m grateful for. I like to make at least one of them something super minor like running water, having a roof over my head and food to eat. It helps put things into perspective.

Remember; if you have internet access to read this, you’re lucky so be grateful.

#3 Define your own Happiness

I don’t know about you, but I’m sick and tired of social networks and the media telling me what will make me happy. “Success” always seems to be based on external things like cars, clothes, and toys. But do all those things truly make you happy?

I can tell you from experience that the superficial things you think would make you happy, actually don’t.

How to define your happiness?

Take some time to reflect on what happiness means to you.

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to begin defining your own version of happiness:

·        Who are the most important people in your life?

·        When do you feel the most relaxed and most of yourself?

·        When are the moments in life where you don’t worry about other things?

·        When do you feel the most present and engaged?

·        If you didn’t have any obligations, what would you choose to do? Where would you live? What would you do for fun?

·        What are the values that are most important to you?

When you’re personally happy with where you are, you’ll stop caring about how other people are judging you.

So define your own happiness rather than trying to emulate what you see in the media.