LIFESTYLE: Dealing With Style Critics

How often do you get criticized for your style?

How does it make you feel?

It hurts right?

Of course – most people’s opinion don’t matter, but what about friends & family?

Your closest pals rip into you at the fact that you upped your style.

Just when you’re feeling confident about a positive change, someone tries to bring you down.

It’s inevitable – being criticized for how you’re dressed.

You can’t seem to please everybody, not all at once. Whatever people’s concept of perfect is, it’s unattainable.

Maybe that’s the way it is. Perhaps we’re supposed to just handle our critics as they come along, whatever way we think best.

Should we be defensive? Or shoot back with a witty, sarcastic remark?

Channel  your mind here by following these tips in facing criticism – whether coming from brutal honesty or arrogance – towards your style.

1. Understand It’s A Reflection Of Them, Not Necessarily You

A lot of times, the fact that somebody’s criticizing has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. It could be an inferiority complex. They could be turned off by how much control you seem to have over your style and image. It could be envy, or they simply started to think they no longer know you.

That may happen more often when it comes to the people close to you. It could be your friend, family member, boss or colleague. If it seems like they resent the positive changes you’ve made to your appearance, that’s a red flag. Your relationship might not be the healthiest one.

The solution here would be a conversation, not confrontation. Be polite and ask if the two of you could talk. Smiling helps. You don’t want to give them the idea that they’re in trouble or there’s a problem.

Once you’ve got your time and place, just be cordial and natural. Start somewhere along the lines of, “I notice you’ve been acting a bit differently since I…” Make the other person comfortable enough to feel they can be honest with you.

You’ll go a long way by engaging in civil conversation. It lets both parties hold a ceasefire, puts aside passive-aggressive behavior. You get to hear their side of things, and it’s your chance to explain why you’ve made those changes. By clearing that up, they might be more accepting.

The foundation of any good relationship is respect. You need it to call it a truce and rebuild bridges. However, you also deserve respect from your critic. It’s your job to figure out whether they’re concerned about you or just hating the style.

If it’s the latter, you’ll have to shake it off. It’s not your fault if they can’t accept the new you. Distance yourself from them if you can.

2. Routinely Question Yourself – Take The Critiques Of Others Into Some Consideration

Make this a precautionary measure from time to time. When getting used to certain changes to your style or adopting different ones, take a step back.

Are you really doing this for yourself? Are you aiming for your inner self to shine its brightest? These are the questions for you to keep in mind.

Never lose sight of the big picture – to treat every day like you’ve got a job interview. You always want the best version of yourself presented since you never know what opportunity might come your way.

Remember its opportunity you’re after, not attention. So every now and then, you should question whether your style might be getting the kind of attention that’s driving away opportunity.

Here’s where criticism helps, especially if it comes from people you trust. Compare yourself to a diamond in the rough – uncut and unpolished when it’s first taken off the earth.

Understand the “flaws” in your style that you didn’t originally see but can now work on. Learn to take in constructive criticism as part of your self-development. Let your ego take the back seat.

As the Jewish proverb goes, “A man who covers up his mistakes will never be prosperous.” You can’t always identify every single mistake or area of improvement on your own. That’s why it helps to get feedback on how others perceive you.

Make it a habit to question your stance on style objectively. It will only help you become a better person

3. You’re A Leader – Leaders Are Never Universally Loved, Especially In Their Own Time

To stand your ground with your own style – looking as sharp as you do – takes confidence.

Confidence is a great thing to have, especially for a leader. And as you probably guessed, leaders aren’t usually the most popular people around.

But there are lots of benefits to showing your ability to lead. You convey a sense of authority, especially with a suit and tie. You command attention instead of just blending into the background. You earn yourself extra time to deliver a sales pitch or pass on an idea to someone. That’s why you’ve got to go the extra mile in looking like a star.

So naturally, more attention could mean more haters. Despite the old saying to not judge a book by its cover, many people still do.

But that shouldn’t get in the way of how you view yourself. You have to BELIEVE you’re a leader who excels and inspires. If others think you’re a pompous jackass who craves attention, let them be.

As long as you’re confident and secure, and you know your intentions, you’ll never have self-doubt. And you should beware of self-doubt – it plants ideas in your head that “prove” you’re not good enough.

4. Surround Yourself with People You Can Share Stories With

Finally, don’t think you have to brave the world of scathing critics by yourself. Always know there are guys out there who are struggling the same way. Some might be worse off than you are at the moment.

Either way, it’s good to have a support system. Even the toughest men aren’t immune to hurt feelings. We need to pat each other’s backs once in a while.

STYLE: IS A STYLE CONSULTANT NECESSARY?

How often do we ask for help?

Rarely, right?

Asking for guidance can be painful.

Especially when it comes to style.

Why is it so difficult?

Because society is centred around helping yourself.Asking for advice can cause us to feel vulnerable.

Here’s a little secret, though.

The majority of regular guys who have hit massive achievement in their careers have asked for help, especially when it came to their image. 

Image Consultants are the behind-the-scenes coaches of industry success stories. A personal stylist is no longer just for the rich and famous.

There are many terms to describe the profession. But first, let’s distinguish between a few titles used to describe professionals who differ slightly in the services they offer.

Image consultant: A qualified professional who is trained in the area of public speaking, etiquette, media communication. They help celebrities and politicians to shape their public image. A broad term that can have many different meanings.

Style consultant: A style consultant will help you improve the way you dress. This includes advice on a range of topics – clothes, shopping, hair, and grooming. A personal style consultation could be a one-off session designed to get you on the road to better style, or a series of consultation based on your lifestyle and career needs. A personal stylist is generally not a celebrity stylist (though some of their clients are well known in their professions).

Personal shopper: Usually focus only on the shopping aspect of a client’s needs.  They usually don’t do at-home appointments, closet edits or anything beyond helping a client shop.  They also can be hired for things beyond fashion, like shopping for gifts and other non-fashion items.

Irrespective of the term they use to describe their profession, all of these people play a crucial role in conveying to the world what you stand for and who you are.

Hiring a personal stylist is a lot more affordable than you think. you can contact and hire us for a suave, exclusive image and style.

Contact yeriza_signature for Image, Style consulting and Personal shopping.

Instagram: @yeriza_signature

Phone: +2348071452095, +2349031395967

LIFESTYLE: Stop Caring What People Think.

There’s nothing worse than a guy who can’t make a decision. or a lady who can’t be who they are because they’re worried about how they’re perceived.

Women love men who pave their own way, take charge and have confidence. Vice versa.

Not many people can genuinely say they don’t care about what other people think of them. How many times do you catch yourself thinking?

·        Does she think I’m attractive?

·        Did I piss off my co-worker?

·        What will my brother/family/friends think if I do XYZ?

As you’ll learn today, as humans we’re conditioned to think this way. But there are ways that you can get around constantly worrying about this.

Today I’m going to give you three strategies you can use to finally stop obsessing about what others think of you so you can be who you truly are.

#1: Realize that Most People Don’t Care About You

You’re walking down the street and trip over the curb. What’s your first reaction? To downplay the trip right? You sort of wobble, but catch your balance and begin walking like nothing ever happened. And every other passerby will continue moving coz they don’t really care if you tripped over a curb or not.

How to Realize Others Don’t Care

When you realize that other people don’t really care all that much about you, it will help lessen the importance that you put on other people’s opinions.

The reality is that people have their own problems to deal with; they’re worried about their jobs, families, finances and the Economy. Most people don’t have the bandwidth to care about other people. The sooner you realize that not every single person in the world is analyzing every move you make, the more content you will feel.

#2 Stop comparing yourself

How often do you find yourself scrolling Instagram, Facebook and Snap-chat admiring photos of friends in exotic vacation spots or driving fancy cars? It can be addictive, but it can also be demoralizing. It can make you feel like you’re not “good enough” or that you haven’t “made it.”

If you want to stop caring what others think of you, it’s important for you to stop comparing yourself with others, you dont have to measure up ones success by what they post on social media.

How to Stop Comparing

o  Firstly, comparing yourself to others who have “more” than you is a losing strategy. You’ll only feel envious, depressed and upset. One thing you can do is limit time on social media,

o   Another positive action you can take, is to exercise gratitude. This may sound cheesy to you, but people who are grateful lead happier and longer lives than those who don’t.

Simply being grateful for the things you do have will allow you to feel more grateful and looking at the brighter side of life.

I like to start every morning by listing out at least three things that I’m grateful for. I like to make at least one of them something super minor like running water, having a roof over my head and food to eat. It helps put things into perspective.

Remember; if you have internet access to read this, you’re lucky so be grateful.

#3 Define your own Happiness

I don’t know about you, but I’m sick and tired of social networks and the media telling me what will make me happy. “Success” always seems to be based on external things like cars, clothes, and toys. But do all those things truly make you happy?

I can tell you from experience that the superficial things you think would make you happy, actually don’t.

How to define your happiness?

Take some time to reflect on what happiness means to you.

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to begin defining your own version of happiness:

·        Who are the most important people in your life?

·        When do you feel the most relaxed and most of yourself?

·        When are the moments in life where you don’t worry about other things?

·        When do you feel the most present and engaged?

·        If you didn’t have any obligations, what would you choose to do? Where would you live? What would you do for fun?

·        What are the values that are most important to you?

When you’re personally happy with where you are, you’ll stop caring about how other people are judging you.

So define your own happiness rather than trying to emulate what you see in the media.

5 TIPS TO OVERHAUL YOUR WARDROBE SPENDING LESS.

Hi YERIZA READERS !!!

Your wardrobe needs to be just as prepared as you. Don’t wait until the last minute to prepare.

The easiest way to do this is to create systems that allow you to grab & go. When LIFE hits you fast, your wardrobe is the LAST thing you want to think about.

It should be quick, painless, and inexpensive. So prepare now.

But how?

1. Focus On The Most Worn.

Look at what you LOVE to wear and work on duplicates.

 If you like a certain brand, get two or three items from that brand. They can be the same or have slight variations in the design and construction. Whatever the item and colour, the key is similarity with a hint of diversity. This gives you the benefit of having longer-lasting clothes (since you’ll take turns with them) this will help in saving your money.

•  Button down shirts – You honestly can’t have enough white shirts. They’re crisp and classic. Instead of buying the same kind (which is okay), try purchasing a shirt without a pocket for a more contemporary flare.

•  Denim – Jeans are a necessity for your wardrobe (since you’re not always dressed for a wedding or award show). Once you find a cut that you like, get two or three pairs. If you’re feeling bold, buy the same cut in different colours.

•  Chinos – When denim isn’t enough, insert chinos. They are the best option for elevated casual style. Once you have a brand that fits you well.

•  Sweaters – Another simple solution to overhaul your wardrobe is paying attention to things that look good on you and are relevant to more than one season in the year. Sweaters (specifically cardigans) are in this category. Cardigans can be layered in the rainy season and dry season.

2. Add Variety To The Most Worn.

Accessories are like the icing on the cake. They take your outfit to a higher level – a more exciting flavour. So to step things up you can do the following:

·        Buy a watch that stands out from the rest.

·        Buy shoes made of premium leather .avoid Synthetic leather it feels like plastic, won’t last long, and will crack easily.

·        Perfect your shoe polishing – there are varying degrees/techniques that will give you a few different results. What’s the point of upgrading your footwear if you don’t know how to properly care for them?

3. Rebuild Lower Clothing Sections As Soon As Possible.

Let’s face it, socks and underwear should NOT be relics (something old that is kept for sentimental reasons) in your wardrobe. Especially since many of them have been stretched out or worn to capacity.

For these items, do away with the old and ugly. They’re probably the easiest things to discard. They’re meant to be replaced.

Most stores make these undergarments easy to get. Grab the essential pieces.

4. Replace Worn Items with High Quality Pieces

   The first step involved here is to move clothing around in your closet.  The most frequently worn pieces should be in the front of the closet. Leave the special occasion pieces (whatever you don’t wear often) toward the back. This will help you figure out which ones you use frequently.

·        Clothes that haven’t been worn for over a year should be stored in a box with a date on it.  See how long you leave it unopened. If another year passes and those items haven’t been reintroduced into your wardrobe, donate the box. You’re better off getting new clothes that you might actually use later on. And those unused clothes are better off in the hands of someone else in need.

·        Shoes are another case. They may wear a little after 1 year. They are unique pieces and we tend to be more patient with how they may rotate in and out of our attire. With shoes, implement the approach that those that are worn most often should be more visible in the closet. The shoes least used or that haven’t been worn should be pushed further back. It’s pretty reasonable that shoes cannot be worn for all occasions, so you may want to give them 3-5 years before deciding whether or not to donate them.

5. Create a Picture of “Wanted” items you want to buy.

This is for items that you want to include in your rebuilt wardrobe. Set up a deadline to commit to buying these items – whether they’re suits, dress shoes, or natives. This is also the time to put aside part of your balance. When you’re ready, pull the trigger and purchase. It’s OK to feel a bit unsure – the goal here is to buy quickly and have it BEFORE you stress out about it!

As a rule, you normally get a better buy from a reputable local store (okrika) but I call them “Boys scout” the services there should make up for that extra bit you pay.

As you are reviewing your closet for “wanted” pieces in your list, you should consider items that will be mainstays such as:

·        A navy, black, and gray suit – These are the staple colors.

·        Whole cut or wingtip shoes – this work with formal and casual outfits.

·        Classic V-neck t-shirt – This could be an undershirt or the main shirt.

·        Solid polo shirts – These are classic because they can be worn at just about any event and they suit all seasons. Polo shirts look great with jeans, dress trousers, and even suits. They’re also casual enough to wear with shorts to the beach.

·        Solid white Oxford shirts – You can never have too many white shirts – it’s just not possible. They’re very useful with or without a tie.

·        Casual sneakers – These are great for the rainy season and dry season when it’s okay to roll up the pant legs of chinos or denim and show some ankle.

Have a wonderful weekend.
                                         

SIMPLE FASHION STYLE TIPS

Good Day YERIZA Readers!!!

Fashion isn't something that exists in dresses alone. Its in the skies,the street. It has to do with ideas, style, the way we live and everything around us. To achieve a stylish look as a Debonair (A sophisticated person, confident and who is carefully dressed) Especially men.

Their are dos and donts when trying to put on that Striped long sleeved shirt with a pant that match or trying to wear a suit jacket or a blazer on a dress shirt or polo. To start up my first post on this platform, I have a few simple style tips I would like to share with you all. To some it ll serve as a breaking news,while others will see it as a reminder,nonetheless I need it to serve both purposes, because knowledge is never a waste.

STYLE TIPS

• Fit is Key and Fit is King.

Fit is very important, its the first most important aspect of style. You wouldn't want to step out with an over sized shirt or pant or a tight shirt or pant. Fit simply means wearing what is exactly your size not too big( loosed) not too small (tight) just fitted. And mind you Fitted doesn't mean tight. It simply means cutting out extra fabric and designing the shirt or pant to be more contoured to the human body of exact size and shape. Its rather preferable you wear a cheap shirt that fits well as opposed to an expensive high quality "Baggy" one. All pants (Trousers) comes in different color and sizes, get that which fits.

• Invest In Your Shoes.

Every great outfit start at the feet. Having a different variety of shoe makes it easier to step out in confidence and style. Good shoes take you good places. A well detailed fashion icon makes shoe contact before eye contact. Investing in your shoes will leave you with nothing less of a classic fellow

• You Dont Need Alot of Money to Look Stylish.

Contrary to popular believe that fashion and style requires fortunes, it isn't, all you need do is to make better choices, get creative, know your need from want. Your work profession can help to determine your better choices of your clothes so as to look stylish.

                       

• Don't Be A Brand Snub.

Just coz you spend alotta money on something or its brand name doesn't mean that it looks good on you and absolutely doesn't mean that it's stylish.  Patronize other brands, get variety of options.  It helps in building your style and gain fresh ideas about how classy other brands will look on you. Fashion is all about creativity and patronizing other brands will bring out the style and confidence you desire.

• Its Okay to Be Strategically Overdressed. 

Over the years I've met a lot of people who complain about been overdressed for an event, shows or parties. But there is nothing wrong in getting "Strategically" overdressed, Next time when you want to step into that event or show in grand style and grandeur just keep in mind the event, know whats expected, know whose going to be there then take it up a notch.There is nothing wrong with been the best dressed guy or lady in the room.

• Button Your Jacket While Standing Unbutton While Sitting. 

Vast majority of men violate these rules because they do not wear suits regularly.  These small rules is used by "Those in the know" to identify other men in "The know" A buttoned suit when standing cuts a cleaner silhouette and reveals the right fit of the suit. Unbutton while sitting allows you to sit comfortably, prevents wrinkles and keeps the button from popping.

• Tie and Lapel. 

Its advisable to match your tie with same size of your suit lapel. This means slim lapel slim tie, wide lapel wide tie.

• Suit Dry Cleaning.

Never take your suit to the dry cleaner after every wear. Only take it to the dry cleaner when its stinky or when u spill on it.Never take your suit or pant to the dry cleaner separately: you do this a few time its going to fade differently because dry cleaning deteriorates and break down suit fabric.

• Belt and Shoe.

It is stylishly acceptable to match your dress belt and show and stylishly unacceptable not to match them. This emotes the confidence in style.

·         Sunglasses.

                          They need to come off your face upon entering a building. Makes u look like a douche. Take off the sunglasses after making 2 step upon entering a building.

•  Accessories.

Wear rings one per hand. Don’t wear multiple rings on a single hand. Your wristwatch and bracelet should match. For an example wear a rose gold bracelet with a rose gold ring or bracelet.